Yes / No / Maybe

I've learned from experience not to just do what makes me happy. You know when you're in a sticky situation and people will give you advice like 'do what makes you happy' but in the long run (for me anyway) I end up being unhappy from my decision. In this day and age, we need to consider other peoples happiness aswell as our own when making decisions.

For me, when I'm stuck in mud or need to make a difficult decision, but don't want help from other people, I write everything down. I weigh up everything. I write down the consequences (remember there is a consequence to EVERYTHING you do. You may think you are superman but truth be told, you can't always make everybody happy). If you accept the fact that you will not, and can not make everybody happy, it is time to accept who are the people that are worth making happy. In life you WILL make the wrong decision, but wise, learn from that mistake, in the end you'll come out smarter.

Of course, you do need to consider your happiness when decision making, but you're not the only person in your life who loves you.

An example: ACCEPTING YOUR DREAM JOB IN ANOTHER COUNTRY.

So you've been living in the same small town all your life. It's your home. You have your friends, family, and you think you are with 'the one'.

Now, you have wanted this job forever. This is your opportunity. Take it or leave it. Now or never.

'The love of your life' can't move to this country with you, because it just so happens that right now s/he is working at s/he's dream job.

Everyone is happy for you, all but two; Your best friends and your lover. You're so confused and upset and your head just feels completely messed up, and you do not know what to do. Now it's time to write everything down.

You know this job will make you happy. But will the fact that you are so far away from home and everyone you love depress you? Is the person you are with worth losing your dream job? Are you being selfish when you're considering taking this job? Why is your best friend not happy for you? Is theres something going on in your best friends life, that you don't know about? What will happen when you have to move away to a big scary country on your own? Is your boy/girlfriend being selfish and only thinking about themselves?

That's just a few things you need to ask yourself. The questions you ask yourself get deeper and deeper. And are different for different people. But in the end you must make your decision. That is life. And life's a bitch. It's better the sooner we realize that and move on!

Good luck with decision making